Have you ever wondered why you or others keep ending up in the same sorts of unhealthy relationship patterns time and time again? Our adult relationships play out the relationship patterns that we learn in childhood, so until we understand our style of relating to others and how to change it, we’ll keep perpetually living out the same cycles over and over again.
When we feel out of control we try to control the outer world to try to escape from how we are feeling in our inner world. It results in us feeling anxious and overwhelmed because we try harder and harder to avoid what we’re feeling and to control things.
The messages we receive from others, whether explicitly said, or just implied from body language and responsiveness of those around us sets us on a path about how we feel about ourselves. We learn about whether the world revolves around us or whether we are a bit of an inconvenience to others.
Making decisions can be so hard, because often we have lost touch with our inner knowing. Our ability to trust ourselves. So we rely on others in case we get it wrong and make the wrong decision. We trust their judgement more than we trust our own.
If you find yourself feeling anxious and overwhelmed, sometimes it’s so hard to know what to do to help yourself. You can feel confused and unsure as to what might even help. These are super simple daily things to do that will boost how you feel.
Coronavirus is all over the headlines. Stories about the spread of it, stories about bare shelves in supermarkets. There is a lot of panic and anxiety around. Where there’s uncertainty and fear, we feel unsettled and don’t know what to do with ourselves. I’m not going to cover the practical side of things like hand …
Sometimes life happens. Bad things happen, unexpected things happen, traumatic things happen. Trauma can affect your body, mind and feelings, leaving you feeling like the world isn’t a safe place, and even your body isn’t a safe place. It can impact your sleep, eating habits, work, relationships and all aspects of life. It can feel …
Sometimes it takes a diagnosis or a death of a loved one to challenge us to think about the purpose of life or what it is all for. So why wait until the end of your life to make the most of it?
Shame says I am bad. I can’t be forgiven. I’m not OK. Shame pushes others away because it believes that if other people knew what you were really like then they wouldn’t want to be around you.
How loved you feel is often a reflection of whether the love you receive is communicated to you in a way that you can receive. The love languages describe how we best recognise and receive love from others.
